Boy does time fly! Last week our precious Madeline celebrated her first month with us, and I cannot believe it! Truthfully, this last month has been filled with ups and downs and we have all been adjusting to life with another little one, but we couldnt be happier!
I wanted to share a little recap of the progress Madeline has made in the last month, as well as how the adjustment has been going. I meant to get this post out last week, but life is just nonstop right now! So rather than a weekend update here is a Maddie update!
Madeline was born 9 lbs 3 oz and has been gaining steadily ever since! Just like her sister, this girl really likes to eat! The biggest difference I noticed this time around in the hospital was how much easier our breastfeeding experience was. Josie had a very hard time figuring out feeding in her first few weeks of life, and it made for a very stressful first month.
Maddie has been a natural with breastfeeding since our first time together. It's incredible to see how natural it comes to her. With no teaching involved, she always knew what to do! At her 1 month appointment she weighted in at 11 lbs 9 oz, putting her in the 94th percentile for weight! We seriously make huge babies (Jos has stayed in the 90% for height, weight and head size from birth on!), and thankfully very healthy babies too! She had a small regression with her latch after we started using a bottle for 1 feeding each night, but it has worked itself out.
Her length at birth was 22 inches, and she is now 22.4 and in the 90th percentile for length!
Madeline has been very healthy overall! Having a baby in the winter with a toddler has been a concern and a challenge. Germs absolutely freak me out when it comes to a newborn - so when Josie had a cold a couple weeks ago, it was hard but we wouldn't allow her to touch Maddie at all. Our entire household has been sick with one cold after another lately, so it has been stressful for everyone. While our doctors assured me she has not caught our colds (because we would know by constant crying) she does have a lot of mucus. She has been stuffy and coughing a bit since birth, but they assured me that is normal for many newborns and will pass. In the last week or so I have noticed a significant decrease in the mucus, finally!
Maddie's only health issue has been plugged tear ducts. She was born with plugged ducts in both eyes, and it causes lots of gunk to build up, especially at night. Each morning when I get her from her crib, her eyes are stuck shut and I use a warm wash cloth to clean them gently. Josie never had a problem with this, but apparently it is very common. Every day I massage her ducts gentle to try and coax them open, and hopefully it will resolve itself within a couple of months. If not, there is a very simple procedure done to open them at around 1 year.
Let me just start out by saying that Josie was an absurdly great sleeper, so my expectations are completely unrealistic as far as how newborns should sleep. Jos started sleeping through the night at 6 weeks and never looked back. And to this day she is the greatest sleeper alive, I'm sure of it (I don't know what I did in life to deserve that).
During the day while Jos is awake, Maddie is a pretty calm and sleepy little girl. She mostly sleeps or hangs out in her bouncy chair while we play. It's so much easier not needing to address two littles at the same time! But come 7pm Maddie is always awake. She is up and bright eyed from around 7-10 normally. We love to snuggle and play with her during this time, since Josie is in bed.
Madeline has been much more of an average newborn sleeper at night. The routine we have gotten into lately is putting her to sleep at around 9:30-10, so we have a little time alone to watch tv and hang out before bed. She will normally sleep for a 4-5 hour stretch, then unfortunately wake up about every 2 hours after that.
It's not even that bad, but I am TIRED. Matthew has been a great help, and since the beginning I pump a bottle before bed so that he can give her the first feeding of the night. He went out of town for work a couple weeks ago and doing everything alone + Josie really made me realize how much of a huge help he is!
Last night for the first time she slept 6 1/2 hours straight - so here's to hoping that continues!
She's a pretty laid back girl. She REALLY likes to sleep during the day and party at night. And as much as I feel like maybe I should try keeping her up more during the day - it just works out so well with Josie, so I normally just let her do her thing.
She loves eating - too much. While she doesn't spit up with the frequency that Josie did, she sometimes overeats and throws up TONS. It's getting better, but I'm still living in legit fear that someday it's going to happen in public and I will be walking around drenched in milk.
She seems to like bottles just fine vs Josie who hated them. Matthew gave her a bottle at 6 days old and she took it no problem. Makes life much easier for us when we go out for date nights! But unfortunately she also love pacifiers, which I really hoped to avoid. Josie never used one, which was awesome because she became a great self soother. Maddie on the other hand is much more orally fixated and loves to suck (hence the overeating). I'm still trying to really limit the paci time, but we keep them around for serious crying situations!
One major dislike is the cold! We are always on the go, since Josie needs to get out of the house most days or we all go crazy, and because of that she has felt many a cold winter day. Jos never seemed to mind the cold much, and still doesn't. Maddie will cry right away when I open the car door unless she is fully covered in a blanket. I am much more careful about keeping her snuggled in warm clothes and blankets this time around because she has made this dislike well known!
Recovery with this C-section has been so much different than the last. Life is so different with a toddler, and it's both hard and great. The beginning was difficult, I often felt guilty when I was laying down and not helping out with Jos, but at the same time resting was the most important thing I could do.
There were a couple of days in weeks 2-3 where I felt deeply overwhelmed and alone. Tears were often involved, coming from me, Josie and Maddie. 2 under 2 is seriously hard at the beginning and I don't know if anyone can fully prepare themselves for the change you experience. I had so much help from family, and I don't know what I would have done without them in those first few weeks. Tending to the needs of a newborn and a jealous and confused toddler was taking all that I had - but it has gotten so much better. I'm glad I have a supportive network of mothers who are there to reassure me that we all feel these struggles, I'm not alone, and it will get easier.
I came down with Mastitis at around 3 weeks while Matthew was out of town, and thankfully I caught it soon. If you're ever nursing and feel a painful lump in your breast and flu-like symptoms, call the doctor right away. I am so glad I got on antibiotics quickly and only felt the pain a couple of days
Overall at week 5, things are going really well. Josie is absolutely loving her sister (sometimes a little too aggressively!) and we are really starting to function well together while finding our new rhythm.
Life With Two:
In some ways life with two is both easier and harder than I expected. I used to think I would never have time with Jos because I would be so busy with the baby, but I have found the opposite to be true. I miss the constant snuggle time you have with your first. All you have is time for them, and it's wonderful.
This time around I treasure Josie's naps when I can focus on Maddie and get some quality bonding time in. That being said, I feel so lucky that Maddie is a sweet and easy newborn who cries very little because it means I have the time to play with Josie! Toddlers are demanding, and Josie is no exception - so I'm always counting my blessings when I can play with Jos for a few hours uninterrupted while Maddie sleeps peacefully near us.
Nothing makes me feel more like a 'mom' than double stroller life. Seriously. I love our stroller (Bugaboo Donkey) but wow do I feel obnoxiously large and wide when we're out and about! Carrying around two isn't as challenging as I thought it would be though - I forgot how easy newborns are to care for in the beginning. However I'm downright terrified for the years when I have two crazy toddlers - pray for me!
Thank you so much for reading and following along with our family! If you ever have any pregnancy, motherhood or product related questions, please post them in the comments or email me directly at firstname.lastname@example.org - I would love to address them in an upcoming post!
I hope everyone had a wonderful weekend!